Hello and welcome to this episode of Spunky Spirit. I am psychic medium Cari Mugz and
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Today we are going to talk about confidence. So as you can see last week, we didn't have an episode
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I was supposed to have a guest on
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He's his he's well known in the UK as the psychic medium. He's been on lots of different
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Shows
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Mediumship shows his name is Tony Stockwell. So we had to reschedule that so he should be coming up anytime soon
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But before I took before I the day before I was supposed to do that interview
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I took a class with him because I wanted to see what he had to say about it was called the confident medium and
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So I kind of thought it is hard because confidence in our intuition
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We really have a hard time a lot of people have a hard time having confidence in themselves anyways
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So they're gonna have a hard time
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Having confidence in their intuition right because we don't know sometimes the difference between our own thoughts and
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What spirit is trying to talk to us about so today we're gonna talk about building confidence
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But mostly on your intuition or spiritual realm parts of confidence
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So the one three things I mean the three things I do want to talk about the a little bit before we go into this on
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How to build your confidence spiritually is the best way to honestly build your confidence is to practice what you're scared of practice
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Like I've done so many readings. I've been doing this work since
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2009 like or even before that even I was doing readings in high school
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But professionally or being paid for it's been a long time and the only reason
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That I get to where I'm at now is because I've been doing it every like
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Readings every day and the practice practice practice. So your confidence and your intuition is like having a gym membership
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You have to practice and you have to keep working on it for it to become better
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And the more you practice the better you get and the more confident you get in it
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But to begin with the best way to figure out what is actually your thoughts and what is actually spirit talking to you or your intuition is
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Couple things one intuition doesn't come with emotions
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Intuition comes with just no emotions attached just to do this just really fast do this so
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so for instance, I
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Had a friend who was super who woke up one night and she checked on the baby and the baby
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Wasn't breathing for a minute and then she went to move the baby and the baby all of a sudden went and took a breath
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Well, she had PTSD about that instance for like the next week every night before bed
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She'd stress about whether which is totally understandable, right?
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The intuition is when she found the baby because it was like right check on the baby check on the baby or check on the daughter
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and then
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Then anxiety for the rest of the week was not intuition
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It was so anxiety comes with emotions anxiety comes with fear anxiety comes with worry
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Intuition is just a fleeting thought for just a second and there's no emotion to it. It's just do this
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so that's kind of how you can you can kind of
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base
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anxiety to against intuition and the more that you practice
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Honoring your intuition or honoring those feelings or not not not feelings because that's intuition
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The better you get at it the more you trust yourself you've got to trust yourself and sometimes you're gonna be wrong
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There is no reading out there that anybody can ever give you that it's gonna be a hundred percent accurate
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There's gonna be some misinterpretations
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There's gonna be because we are interpreting for spirit and sometimes it sometimes even the best mediums don't always do it accurately
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Or 100% accurately we get bits and pieces because we don't get to choose the information we get right
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We can't be like that's why when you go to a medium and you're like well
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Why didn't she say this or why didn't can you tell me this?
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It's because they tell us what you need to know and we don't just get to pick and choose we can ask questions
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but sometimes they won't give us that information because it's
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detrimental to or
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Gonna affect your personal growth so
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So confidence and intuition you have to trust once you start trusting your intuition more and more and more
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Then the better you'll be at it and sometimes you will choose the wrong way or go in the wrong direction
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But it's gonna be okay. So long before I became a medium. I wanted to build confidence in women
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I wanted to build that confidence and little did I know I had a lot to still learn and that's probably why I
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Never really I went from I had a I had a like a
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Self-help thing called confident women org and I remember having
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Like a big vinyl sticker on the back of my car that said it and my son would refuse to drive the car because he was so
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Embarrassed that I had that on there. It was so funny. He was a teenager and I just for always and always wanted to build people up
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Or or help them feel good about who they are and little did I know at the time
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That I had lots to still learn or lots to still do before I got to this point
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So I also became like a health coach and I didn't really it was actually Beachbody
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And I wanted to like support women and help them to be more confident in who they are and their self-image and in reality
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I was still not there where I needed to be so and all of those places
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They weren't actually wrong. They weren't the right choice for me and one of them
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I was super miserable in after a while, but they led me to be where I am now. So if I wouldn't have become
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Because in a Beachbody coach because even though that was hard for me and I didn't have the self-confidence
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I needed in myself or in my physical appearance
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I
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were surrounded by women who was who were amazing and they believed in me and my gift and
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That's where it kind of all started like even though before I do like readings in high school or I would see things in high school
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I
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Was definitely partnered up with somebody who believed in this spiritual realm and
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Got me to believe in myself and that's so the step sometimes we think we chose the wrong decision and really
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Sometimes we didn't sometimes we needed that step to go further
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So don't ever feel like because that you're going in our direction because sometimes you have to go off on a tangent
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You're still gonna go to your divine purpose. What is meant for you?
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It just might take a little bit more time and that's okay, but I honestly think I mean even though
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I was doing readings back then I didn't have the confidence that I needed and these steps left left
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Led me to the confidence that I needed
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Another way to get confidence in what you're getting is meditation meditation
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It will help you realize what your it helps you sort between your own thoughts and what spirits telling you
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So that's what meditation is. It's not you can talk to spirit
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That's what prayer is but then meditation is listening and you have to when you meditate
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Kind of sort between what is mine and what is spirits and meditation is good is so good for that and
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You don't have to do it. I started meditation when I started running
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so I would get in a meditative state and
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Because when you run or you drive or you blow dry your hair you can get into a meditative state
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You don't always just have to sit in
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Quietness because to quiet your mind completely is is almost impossible for the average person
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But you can start to decipher between between what's yours and what spirits and what is and what is
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Meant for you and what's not the more you meditate the more practice you have you can understand that
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To and you can become more aware of your surroundings, which will help you see
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Signs and symbols from your spirit guides and your ancestors anyways
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So then also to automatic writing is a really good way to be able to decipher
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What is yours and what is what is spirits?
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And so if you don't know what automatic writing is
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I suggest you Google it because I've talked about it a lot
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And I don't want to spend a lot of time going over how it works
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But it's like journaling, but you just keep writing and writing and writing your thoughts down
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And so sometimes that helps you sometimes even
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Your I have a friend of mine who automatic writes when she wants to communicate with her
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son who's passed over and
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She swears by it. She knows she the first couple of times
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She was like what is mine and what is his but now she can she swears that they can have full conversations
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And he will tell her things that that that she should that she doesn't know about other like family members
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And she knows that it's him and so and she sometimes even her handwriting will change and it'll be
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his handwriting so
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Automatic writing practice it practice now. This is the same thing is going to the gym
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Intuition and confidence has to be practiced. It's not something that you're just like, okay bring it. I'm gonna be
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You know just they have to be practiced and they have to be built and they have to be worked on all the time
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So confidence in especially confidence in the spiritual realm because there's no evidence now confidence in like a physical realm or
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confidence in your work can be
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Honored or can be validated by achieving so when you achieve a goal like if you have a goal at work and you achieve it
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your confidence can raise like two or three percent because you achieved that goal and
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Same with if you're doing something in the physical realm and like you're trying to lose weight and you lost five pounds
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Then that's achieving that gives you more confidence
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spiritually the validation is a little bit harder to come by because you don't know are you
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Sometimes you think is that me or is that spirit and it's not really validated
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But the more you do it and the more you practice it the more you will be validated
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And then all you will you will know without a shadow of doubt that this is spirit and growth the growth is like a lot of people think that
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spiritual growth is so supposed to be like rainbow and roses and it kind of first it is but then you
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have to dig deep and do some shadow work and
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You have to love every part of yourself and so to gain confidence in the spiritual realm you have to see the bad
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You have to love the dark and the light together
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you have to love who you are in the light and in the dark and
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Lots of spiritual work is your own personal work your own personal
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Growth your own personal counseling anything that you do that's gonna help you be a better person
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spiritually and process things that happen to you through traumas and things that have happened to your life so spiritual growth like I've always said is not super easy and
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it just kind of sucks because
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To get that confidence you have to go through that shits, right?
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So it's like and some people don't want to and that's okay
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but to get that confidence in spirit or in about your intuition you really have to
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really
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look at yourself and be honest with yourself and
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It's easy for people to say you have to love yourself because that's kind of the cliche
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But you really do you have to really love and not in an egotistical way and not in an arrogant way
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Just that you're you're not perfect and neither is ever anybody else and that's okay. You have to still love that anyways
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so
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the first thing I want to talk to you about and
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gaining confidence and in in in your intuition is you have to have a growth mindset
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You have to think that you can do it. You have to think that it's possible. You have to believe in it
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You can't just think well, I'm not gifted. I can't be a medium because everybody can be a medium
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Everybody can communicate to the other with the other side. It's not just a God picks special people
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That's not how it is. We are all on this earth
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We all have this God-given gift some of some of the people are just better at it than others because they've practiced more or they understand
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It more or they just were born with like a third eye being more open, but that doesn't mean
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I mean, I've told this story all the time
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I think the reason why my spiritual gift was when I was so young is because I
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Kind of grew up in a household where I had to always with an alcoholic
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You know, we were we were always I was always I was the peacemaker and I always had to be on I always had to feel
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My environment what's going on who's gonna be mad? What's going on right now? Is this a safe place?
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Can it I always had to like have my feelers on so I always were was able like my empathy
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I had to always feel the room make sure everything was okay
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And so that's kind of so I practiced every day really not knowing what I was doing and so
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That's kind of what you have to do
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But maybe you didn't you grew up in a safe environment or you grew up in a very
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Safe home and so you didn't always have to use your intuition or you didn't always have to tap into that
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Or maybe you were taught that that was evil and so you didn't do it and that's okay
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Because what you have to do is you have to believe that you can do it
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Don't believe any any spiritual people out there or mediums that tell you that you don't have the gift or you can't do it
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Guarantee you you practice enough you do it enough you set your intentions you work hard
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You can do it and it's not something easy. It's like going to the gym
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If you want to lose 50 pounds, it's gonna be hard work if you want to tap in and start to communicate with the other side
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It's gonna be some hard work
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So you have to be able to believe that you can do it because if you're just like this is impossible and I can't do it
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It's like anything else if you believe you can lose 50 pounds
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You probably will if you believe that you can make this this monetary goal you will so same thing with spiritual stuff
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Next one make sure you're surrounded with good people who believe in it, too
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Don't be surrounded with people who tell you that's evil. You can't do it you
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You're so stupid or you you were wrong or you're always wrong
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you have to be around people who lift you up and support you and
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Love you regardless and in want your successes because a lot of times when you start to
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Communicate with the other side a lot of people can get jealous because they don't understand why they can't and they don't understand
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It just takes work. They can it just takes work and so people can really
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Drown your confidence, especially and this is I'm gonna talk about I'm gonna skip one and go to
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Comparing comparing yourself to other people if you compare your spiritual gifts
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To somebody else to a medium who's worked 20 years
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Of course, you're gonna feel like you fall short, right?
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But you have to remember that medium or that person that spiritual person has been doing it for years
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They're at a different chapter in their book their journey is different than yours
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So you can't compare yourself and a lot of times too you think it's gonna be like how Hollywood
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You think it's gonna be like just right in front of you see a spirit and it's not how it works
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So it's something that you have to work on inside of you and you can to to process on the outside
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So don't compare yourself and be around people surround yourself with good people surround yourself with people who love you and support you and
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and want the best for you and
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Don't always bring you down because people who are like that can really tear down your confidence and
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Really you can always tell those people that are around you that don't want you to succeed
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It's and doesn't mean you have to cut them out of your life. It just means you have to create boundaries
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We've talked about boundaries all the time too. You need to create boundaries around them and
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Sometimes I have to block people off of my social media for a little bit and that's another one too
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Every time I take us every time I take a class
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Every single class has been like be off social media
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Because that is a comparison we go and look at what other people are doing and it's great to have mentors
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And it's great to be like oh that would be fun for me to do
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But when you start comparing yourself to other people and you're like oh my gosh
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She's talking about having this big dream and her father came to her and that would never happen for me
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Then we go into the growth mindset. We don't think we can do it
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We don't believe in it and we can we're comparing and so that makes it that takes it away
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and so this spiritual growth and
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Communicate I don't communicating with the other side really has a lot to do with loving yourself
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Honestly and living in the now because we you have to be in the now and enjoy where you're at and know that you're in the
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Right part of the journey
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Because if you're too busy comparing yourself to others and you have anxiety or you're too worried about what you did in the past
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Spirit can't conform or concentrate on the now. So be in the now. That's a big one too
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The next one is to challenge yourself make certain goals. Tell yourself. I'm going to
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meditate for 10 more minutes today or I'm going to
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And if you don't make it, that's okay. Just try your best challenge yourself to it's like sometimes
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It's to me the spiritual journey is a lot like running and so when I ran my marathon
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There was like super there were times when I was like on top of the world during the marathon
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I was like, this is so awesome. This is so great
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And then there were times during the marathon that I was like I cannot do this anymore. This sucks
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This is this is freaking hard
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The spiritual journey is just like that and sometimes you'll hit blocks and sometimes you'll
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You'll just want to quit and it's just it's kind of life in general and so running to me and
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Spiritual growth is kind of the same thing because you have to believe in yourself and you have to surround yourself by positive people
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You don't want to be running and have people have a sign that say you are never going to make it
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I am better than you and with running you can't compare yourself to other people either
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Same thing some people are gonna be faster than you some people have trained longer than you and that's okay. So that's
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That's kind of where we're at like it's it's that journey that's that running a marathon
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It's kind of like life and and your spiritual journey
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Sometimes it's gonna be super fun and you're gonna be on cloud nine and you have all this
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Second win and sometimes you're just gonna be like I cannot take another step and I'm gonna have to stop and walk for a minute
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Okay
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Another way to gain confidence is to stand up for yourself sometimes as spiritual
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Workers we are so empathic and we are people pleasers and we let people walk all over us and when you so when I say stand up for yourself
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It doesn't mean
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Be mean and be like no I did this it just means that have these boundaries
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Take care of yourself first
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It's that whole airplane mask thing if you don't take care of yourself
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Who is going to if you don't put your mask on first you're not gonna be able to get enough oxygen to help anybody else
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So take care of yourself first stand up for yourself
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Tell people no if people ask you to do certain things say no I can't do it if you can't do it
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No, if it's not if it doesn't
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If it doesn't help you or better you it's not selfish if you say no
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It's just your time is it's your time is valuable to just you deserve to take up space too
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I remember like a long time ago
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I'm not even that long ago when I would go on the highway
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I would be so nervous when people were behind me because I'd be like oh, I'm going too slow
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They need to pass me and then my daughter told me mom you can take up space too
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You deserve to take a space too, and then I thought you know what I do. I'm just as important as them
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I'm not more important
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I'm not less important and I can take up space too and this is the space that I'm taking up if they don't like it
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They can pass me. I'm not gonna worry about that. So
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Same with you you deserve to take up space and you deserve to be where you're at
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And if somebody else doesn't like it they can pass you so
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And also honestly - the next one is to be honest with yourself
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Really be honest with yourself. Do there are so many times when I'm like, okay
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I didn't like that reading
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But did I like it because I felt I could do better or did I not not like it because they didn't like it
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And that's one of the things that I learned in this class with Tony Stockwell - is he said not to
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Measure yourself worth and I think we're gonna talk about that too
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Measure yourself worth on what other people think the reading how the reading went because you know
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You know what your limits are you know?
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What is what you expect?
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But that's kind of hard to because I really have a high expectation of myself and so sometimes when I think okay
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I could have done better or I feel like it should have gone better, but you have to realize
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Everybody does this everybody does this at their work or and they're running or whatever hobbies they have
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There are gonna be days where you think okay
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I should have you're gonna be hard on yourself and you're gonna think you could have done it better so just
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Know that there's gonna be just like in the marathon
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There's gonna be highs and lows and that's okay
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You just the truth the thing is you just got to keep going you got to keep going keep working on it and know that
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It's never gonna be perfect because it just isn't and that's okay
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So my foot is starting to fall asleep really bad right here, so I gotta move it. There we go. Okay. Sorry about that
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Okay, the next one is to do things that make you happy
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If you're trying to do this and you're it's it's whatever it is that you're trying to build your confidence in or if you're trying to
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Do something spiritual and it's just not making you happy and it's just taking the joy out of it
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Then it's time to reevaluate and it's time to relook at things and it's time to
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Reconsider things and yes, there's been many times throughout my career that I have been like do I really want to do this?
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Is this worth it?
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But most of the time the only times I did that is when I let other people measure myself worth because
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You have to realize your self-worth is not measured on how spiritually gifted you are. It's not measured on your job
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It's not measured on
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How good of a mom you are your self-worth is measured on you and your heart and your intentions and
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So a lot of people measure their self-worth on other things like how good this book sells or
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How good I was at teaching this class or how good the reading was and you can't measure yourself worth on those things
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because then they do become
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Anxiety and they do become not fun anymore. And so
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That's when you got to take a reevaluation and think okay
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Why am I doing this am I doing this because I want to have fun or am I doing it because I want to help people?
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Need to reevaluate because you got to take the you got to keep the fun in it
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That's kind of hard sometimes because like I started this as a hobby or fun
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And it has turned into sometimes a lot of pressure
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It's a lot of pressure to
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Sometimes when when you're thinking about when I think about what the client thinks
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It's a lot of pressure instead of because I want it to be perfect for the for my client that sometimes it gives me anxiety
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And if you have anxiety during the reading you can't relax and you can't
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Communicate as well. So now it's like once I got past that then now it's like I can relax during all the readings and and and my
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My readings are like fun and awesome and great
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But there was a couple, you know five or six years ago that I was like when I first started out that you're
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You base that self-worth on the reading itself and it's really hard to get past that so
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But if you're just trying to communicate on your own you still get harder
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You still will get hard on yourself because you're meditate and maybe not have a profound experience and think that you're doing it wrong
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Or there's something wrong with you and you're not spiritually gifted and that's not true
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You just have to invest in yourself and you have to
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Take the time to learn how to do those things and find a great
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Mentor that you don't compare yourself to but you learn from okay
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And also to the next one see your failures
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My biggest growth was from my failures
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The thing that sucks though is I would replay him in my head and replay him in my head and replay him in my head and
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It would consume me and I finally had to just get to the point where I've got to let this go
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Which still I can still fall into that pattern sometimes
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Depending on what it is, but I have to set boundaries that I don't
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That I you know, that's the comparison one when I was gonna say I have to set boundaries that I don't look at social media
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And I don't look at what people say about mediums because that's the one where I you can't care about what other people think but this is
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See your failures as opportunities and so what other people think is in a failure, but if you do something and you
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You think you failed you really didn't because I could look at my
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I could look at my confident woman thing and I could look at my beach buddy thing and think that I failed because I quit those
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But I didn't because now I'm doing something completely different entirely different and very very much love it
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So but it took me a time a while to get to love it because in the first stages
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There was a lot of anxiety that came with it
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so it's just but I stuck with it and I kept practicing and practicing and
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This feels right. This feels this career path feels like I'm
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Going down a stream and I'm not trying to go up current. I'm not trying to go upstream
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I'm not trying to paddle and make it and force it to work
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Whereas the other two kind of did I was finding and so that's kind of how you can find that you're in alignment
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I kind of did Carrie Kinects was about being in alignment and music and
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So when it kind of just goes and you feel an alignment anxiety comes
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But when you feel like this is your purpose or you feel like you're aligned
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That's when you kind of know when you're not just constantly now
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I'm not saying that when you do find your purpose
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It's gonna be easy and everything's gonna be fine. You're still gonna work and you still have to work hard
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and
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I want to say work hard as in work on yourself not like bust your butt - you just have to work hard on yourself
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Okay, and that's not a chaotic thing. That's a beautiful thing
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so see your failures be honest with yourself and look at your failures as
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Opportunity because the beach body thing turned into an opportunity for me because I was surrounded by people who believed in me and
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Made me go in it. It helped me go forward
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Most of all this is the last one is take care of yourself. You can put you first
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I've said this and said this and said this it's okay to put you first. It's not selfish now
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It's this is hard for people who have little kids
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But you know what it's okay to put your family first right now
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It might not be a season for you to spiritually communicate with past loved ones when you have little kids because
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It's chaotic and it's crazy. So maybe this is something
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You pick a season and so I don't I mean even though I had this gift when I had little kids it very rarely
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Would show up for me because I was so
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So invested in the kids and being a mom and so but now it shows up for me constantly because I work on it constantly
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Whereas before I was always working on being a mom and being there for others and and doing all of that stuff
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And then I went into lots of self-care lots of self-valid self
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self-looking at whatever you want to self-awareness and then
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So those of you who are like, okay, I want to do that one day, but you have little kids
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I'm not saying you can't but you got it
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Let's just be honest. I feel like a woman can this is this is really thin territory here
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I feel like you can do both but honestly one's gonna suffer one will suffer because I
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Don't think and maybe that's just me. Maybe not for you
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But if I was doing this well, I had kids little tiny kids
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It would be a lot harder. So give yourself some grace here if that's your plan
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Give yourself some grace and know that it's okay. So my season was now my season to do this was now and
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There's always a time in a season your purposes or are not always going to be the same when my purpose when I was 25
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Was to be a good mom now my purpose is to still be a great grandmother
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Not a great grandmother, but a grandmother and a mom but also to to build myself and to build this thing
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so
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Every purpose has a time and a season and there's not just one so always be aware of that some people are like
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What's my main purpose in life?
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Sometimes there's a lots of different purposes that you have on this lifetime. They just come at different times. So I
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Really hope that helps you guys I do I
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It's it's confidence and intuition and confidence in yourself is so hard
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It's one of the hardest things, but you just have to trust trust in spirit and trust yourself
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That's why if you can see I got this well, you can't see but those of you are watching I got a tattoo
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It's three three three and then underneath is the symbol of spirit because it symbolizes to trust myself and trust my guides and
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trust spirit because
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You just have to because no one you just have to trust in you
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You have to have the confidence in you and not in an ergo way and not in ego way
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Just know that you're being guided in the right direction and that you can do these things everybody we all have this
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These gifts inside of us and just because somebody else may claim that they that you don't doesn't mean you can do anything
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You can do anything you want to and you can create what you want to is it just gonna come fall in your lap?
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No, does it gonna take some work? Yeah, it's gonna take some work sometimes and that's what manifesting is
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Some people think that you can just say I'm gonna manifest this and sometimes it does happen
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But in my case in my reality, I have to work for it because then I have to show spirit
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I'm ready for it. So I hope this helps you guys. I love you guys so much today is
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actually April 2nd
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Shout out to one of my friends. It's a birthday for her today. So happy birthday to
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friend I've known since high school and knew
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since along that I've had this gift and always supported me and so happy birthday to you and
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I have some stuff coming up on this month last month. I did an event and I did a class
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I'm gonna have two classes in April. So watch for those
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I think one's gonna be a mediumship class and one's gonna be an online class. I just haven't decided the what yet
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so watch for those and
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Know that I love you guys so much and I seriously mean it because I know I wouldn't be here without you
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And I'm so humbled that you guys support support my classes support my events and support this because I know I wouldn't be here without you and
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your belief in me and
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It's just amazing so and also too always always always remember that you have everything you need already inside of you
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I'll see you guys next week
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